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Rebound and recover…

30 Saturday Mar 2019

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direction, faith, family, forgiveness, Friends, God, grace, Heal, heart, introspection, lessons, life, love, mercy, Prayer, purpose, Refection, time

I’m writing this post from the place I visited exactly two years ago. The view remains spectacular with a few extra “nice to see” things and my life has done a complete 360 in every possible way.

For those who read this blog, you would recall the plan was to take a one year sabbatical and then allow life to unfold. Well, the one year sabbatical did happen, just not the way I had envisaged. And the year that followed was anything but a stroll in the park.

As I reflect on the last two years, I don’t believe I can adequately describe the intensity of the challenges that knocked on my door. But, what I do know with every fibre of confidence is that God remains faithful.

When I tell you that I had no idea life could two feet you (it’s a Sydenham saying) and bring you to your knees… it can. It’s not pretty and it’s certainly painful at the “best” of times. I was tried and tested from every possible position but had the grace to press on because I knew that God remains faithful.

I am also extremely blessed to have a solid group of faith-filled women and men to support me unconditionally. They know who they are and to respect their privacy I will not mention their names. But, there is one woman who I believe is a complete angel on earth and who took me under her wing and wiped my tears and prayed me through the most dire times – Aunty Karen Wallace. She is more than amazing. She certainly epitomises God’s love and compassion. And has without doubt secured a special place in my heart.

I’m all about being fearlessly authentic, and when I say there were times I felt like I could not go on, that every ounce of my strength was depleted and the will to live was running on empty, but between God and aunty Karen, I’m alive and energised to continue walking on purpose.

And so, if at any point you find yourself at a place where you feel hopeless.

A place where you feel completely lost.

A place you where feel like a drifting yacht on a rough sea.

A place where you feel like nothing makes sense anymore.

A place where you feel like your heart has been ripped apart.

A place where you feel like you don’t want to open your eyes to face another day.

Know this… God has a plan. God is in complete control. God has your back. He created YOU with a specific purpose and all He expects is unwavering faith and complete obedience (no matter what the circumstances). He does not need you and I to help Him unfold the plan He designed perfectly and with the right time-frames. Just place your hope and trust in Him.

There were many lessons I’ve jotted down over the last 24months, one of the more crucial ones was to pay attention to the people who are willing to stand in the ring and take the punches with you; those real people (not the fair-weather types) who hold your head up and keep you standing and smiling.

Most importantly, don’t fight the separation process. We know that some people are only meant to be in our lives for a reason, season and lifetime. Holding onto someone whose expiration date has come and gone will cause more chaos and distraction. Again, just trust God’s lead.

And finally, it’s perfectly fine to release (forgive) and love some people (family included) from a distance. Anything or anyone that threatens or obstructs your peace and Divine purpose has no place in your life.

If you are reading this post and find yourself in need of encouragement, allow me to suggest that you pour your heart out to God… be still enough to listen to His voice (yes, He still speaks) and hold onto your faith like never before.

And once you’ve allowed yourself to heal, stand up boldly and go out there and rise and thrive… because God can and will always be the anchor, compass and all-round Navigator you need at any given moment.

Love. Love. And more love coupled with equal portions of boundless faith, grace and mercy be yours this day and always!

Feelings and forgiveness…

29 Sunday Apr 2018

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Anger, believe, choose, Church, Emotions, family, Feelings, Folk, forgiveness, friend, God, Hearts, Hurt, kindness, love, pain, Scripture, Thoughts, world

We’ve all been in situations (with one or more people) where things went south rather quickly and some sort of disagreement results in a few bruised egos and frazzled feelings.

And normally such situations are not too difficult to handle if it involves strangers – and so forgiveness almost seems effortless. It’s those situations where someone very close – family, friend or folk from church – does something that makes no sense… and forgiveness takes on a whole new meaning.

Such times are designed to either send our emotions into overdrive, and or to rob us of our joy. And it’s usually in these moments, that it’s easy to think the unkindest thoughts about the person(s) who we believe has caused us pain.

Recently, I experienced something that made me feel like my world was tumbling down. And instinctively, I called a friend – because let’s face it – we like to vent before we fall on our knees.
And, it was after I ended that call, that I realised I didn’t have to call because I wasn’t alone… God is always right there with us… even in the height of the storm.

I also thought, as shattered as I was feeling, I’m not God and can’t possibly stand in judgement of any person.
Secondly, what does Luke 6:27, 28 tell us we ought to do when people hurt us:
“But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.”

Emotions aside, putting scripture into practice is not a mission impossible. And why do I say this? Because I believe that our default settings are kindness and love and so if we choose them over the anger, bitterness and possibly even a grudge then embracing the concept of forgiveness becomes easier.

Take a moment to think… is there someone who has upset you, someone who you need to forgive and release?

Beloved, love covers a multitude of sins.
This day, let us choose to recommit our lives, our hearts and all that we are to walk in love and kindness…

Take it all because you can!

09 Sunday Aug 2015

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Appreciation, Call, choose, compassion, Email, fabulous, favoured, forgiveness, Good things; Reap what you sow, grow, heart, kindness, learn, Lesson, life, love, peace, Process, strength, Text, thank you, time

As you prepare to ride the wave of life this week, I hope that you will trust the process even though you don’t understand it.

I hope that you will open your heart and be receptive to receiving every good thing coming your way.

I hope that you will find the nerve to pick up the phone and make that call, send that text or email.

I hope that you will choose to learn the lesson and grow as opposed to wallowing in self-pity or any other toxic behaviour.

I hope that you will find the strength to say “I’m sorry, I forgive you” and continue to move on… walking in perfect peace as you should.

I hope that you will continue to give of your best (even if it appears that your efforts are not acknowledged or appreciated) for one day you shall reap the rewards.

I hope that when it comes down to the wire, that you will choose kindness, compassion and love. Always!

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

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It’s your choice…

28 Sunday Dec 2014

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associations, choices, comfort zone, decisions, evolve, forgiveness, generous, grow, journey, learn, life, relationships, trust

Over the last few days most of my conversations with friends and complete strangers was around forgiveness.

No, I’m not going to launch into some sermon, or tell you to pick up the phone blah blah blah. I’d like to encourage you to take some quiet time out for YOU, and during this time I hope you choose to do the following:

Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for poor choices.
Forgive yourself for a lapse in judgment.
Forgive yourself for what has happened in the past; some things are beyond your control.
Forgive yourself for being impatient.
Forgive yourself for snapping & firing off unkind words.
Forgive yourself for not taking a chance and choosing to stay in a comfort zone.
Forgive yourself for not being as generous as you hoped to be.
Forgive yourself for being grumpy.
Forgive yourself for trusting someone even though the red flags were right in front of you.
Forgive yourself for not walking away from a relationship or association before things went really sour.
Forgive yourself for making the same mistake twice.
Forgive yourself for holding on to anything or anyone that’s holding you back; make the break now.

You see, this is life… there’s no one size fits all approach. The important thing is to find what works for YOU.

We live. We learn. We grow. We share. We care. We rise. We stumble. We fall. We evolve.

Today, remind yourself:
This is my journey.
This is my story.
These are my choices.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay favoured and fabulous x

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One year later…

30 Sunday Nov 2014

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compassion, forgiveness, grief, human rights, kind, love, Madiba, memories, nation, reconciliation, sacrifice, selfless, South Africa, Tata, Ubuntu

A nation remembers…

It’s such a sad, sad, time for my beloved country, South Africa. This week and more especially on December 5, we will relive and remember how a collective cry of despair took hold of our nation one year ago.
It is the day the father of our nation, Nelson Mandela (or Madiba as he was affectionately known), passed on.

We knew this day would come but I think we silently hoped that he would live forever.
Madiba paid his dues, he fought the good fight, he made many sacrifices.
That day will forever be remembered as one of the most emotional dates in our history…

Nothing could have prepared us for the incredible sadness that swept across our nation and the world.
Nothing could help ease the heartache that felt like a ten ton truck had crashed.

Words seemed empty. People wept openly and shared anecdotes. This was after all a man who led his people free. A man who never once complained about spending 27 years in a prison cell. This was a man who stood firmly and fought gallantly for basic human rights.

Obituaries read like they were churned out from the same machine.
Each writer (including this one) all speaking about the hero and role model whose immeasurable love,
honesty, integrity, humility, compassion, foresight and wisdom touched the lives of people across the world.

Madiba’s presence was something you have had to experience first-hand. I never really understood what people meant until I attended a press conference on Robben Island where
he delivered a speech. Awwww… the memory.

The sharp pain that darted through my heart before I started writing this has been replaced with a smile and a sense of peace.

The truth is we can smile fondly as we remember and give thanks for the gift of Madiba’s life.
Truly an incredible man.
So selfless.
So loving.
So tolerant.
So thoughtful.
So kind.
So sympathetic.

Madiba epitomised every infinite possibility this country has to offer and more.
My earnest prayer is that every single South African will take stock at this time.
That everyone will make a concerted effort to carry out his legacy of reconciliation, unity, forgiveness and Ubuntu.

Rest in peace Tata!

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Looking for a book?

23 Sunday Nov 2014

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authors, books, forgiveness, inspiration, literature, love, Malala, Mandela, miracles, Nobel Peace Prize, peace, politics, stories, truth, words

Currently reading these two books. Both are remarkable stories; so many lessons to learn…

Inspiration.
Truth.
Forgiveness.
Love.
Peace.
Hope.

If you are looking for books to add to your list, I’d highly recommend these.

Happy reading x

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