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Choose your circle carefully!

28 Saturday Dec 2019

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I hope YOU choose to enter the new year, new decade with endless faith, oodles of optimism and most importantly, the right inner circle.

If this last year has taught me anything, boundaries are more critical than you know. Choosing to have boundaries simply means that YOU choose to be surrounded by people who share your outlook, share a similar approach and refuse to compromise core fundamentals – like the truth, honesty, integrity, compassion, kindness and love.

As we chart through various stages of life, we meet so many people along the way. Some of them come into our lives for a reason, season (painful and expensive lessons in some instances) and lifetime.

The key is to discern an individual’s role in your journey; and embrace and accept the role he/she is meant to fulfil for the said period. The fact is that holding on when a reason or season is over brings with it unnecessary frustration, hurt and pain so let go when you ought to.

All relationships should evolve (and dissolve) organically. Period. #youllcatchthatinaminute

With 2019 about to come to an end, let us make a conscious choice to refrain from taking the same “mistakes” into a new decade. There’s still time to do a thorough “spring clean”.

Your choices and decisions should be based on what’s best for YOU.

For your journey.

For your peace of mind.

With a new year. With a new decade. We get to make better choices. We get to put ourselves first. We get to stop pretending. We get to stop keeping up appearances. We get to be the voice that keeps it REAL 24/7.

My wish for you: may YOU never sacrifice your peace of mind and mental health to please anyone. Be true to YOU and always choose to have the courage of your convictions, even if you are standing alone. And never ever allow any person to disrespect you… cut your losses and walk away.

The right people will appreciate and love you unconditionally.

Blessings, love and perfect peace to you, always in 2020!

When I look back…

28 Friday Dec 2018

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… I sigh a breath of relief because it’s only through God’s grace that I remain standing; and able to share this post.

If ever there was a year that showed me flames, it was 2018. I shall spare you the detail but if you remember anything from this post, know that whatever and whoever is sent to put a spoke in the wheels of your destiny, it will not succeed. I say this confidently because boy, oh, boy… did they come fast and furiously. And each attempt was thwarted and came to naught, thanks to the Hand of God over my life.

I cried a lot this year.
It was a combination of tears of joy and tears of sorrow; some I personally experienced and others I witnessed.

There were tears for the disappointment in the way some prospective projects folded.
There were tears for the disappointment in the way some people (including family) behaved.
There were tears for the disappointment in the way some people chose to defeat the ends of justice to save face instead of taking responsibility for their untoward choices/decisions.
There were tears for the disappointment in the way some associations dissolved before they even took off.
There were tears for the disappointment in the way some people used people as pawns in their game of life.
There were tears for the disappointment in the way some people choose to continue along the path of a dysfunctional façade knowing full well that these actions have a domino effect.

Some of the hardest tears were for the ties that I chose to sever in the name of self-preservation and peace of mind. Like my mentor pointed out, ‘Jesus did not resurrect Judas and neither should you’. And also, forgiveness does not equate to re-association.

So in all the tears, pain and disappointment, I’m most grateful for the fact that it brought me to my knees and made me draw closer to God. There was many a night I was face flat on the floor either crying out in prayer or having these heated debates with God trying to figure out the why. Until, one morning, He whispered “be still and trust Me”.

And when that penny dropped, the journey became more enjoyable and the revelations came about sooner and more clearly.

With the start of the New Year just days away, I continue to look ahead with great expectation, an open heart and confident that He that started a good work will make sure it manifests as and when it should.

As you embrace 2019:

May you honour yourself (and your space) and enforce the relevant boundaries.
Let your no be no and your yes, be yes.
May you walk in purpose and never compromise the work you are called to do, all for His glory.
May you never settle for anything less than you deserve.

More importantly, may your heart be filled with perfect peace, undiluted joy and gratitude for all things (big and small).

Love. Love. And more love to you and yours for 2019 and beyond…

YOU are worthy!

04 Wednesday Nov 2015

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Thank heavens for the various options we have at our disposal, especially when cabin fever starts to set in.

Inasmuch as I love my bedroom, being confined to it for four days can get much. Even if the doctor’s orders included “no work, just take your meds and sleep it off”; boredom inevitably kicked in.

I kept my end of the bargain about no work and haven’t logged in since Sunday. That is a accomplishment
**pats self on the back**

But, once the meds wore off I needed a distraction. So, I watched some of my favourites from Brené Brown and thought you might enjoy them:

There Are No Prerequisites for Worthiness |

A Thing Scarier Than Being Vulnerable |

The Price of Invulnerability |

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous & favoured xxx

Dare to stand alone!

03 Saturday Oct 2015

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Dare to walk confidently.

Dare to speak boldly.

Dare to hold on to your promises.

Dare to walk away when a season ends.

Dare to step right into your open door.

Never ever trade your authenticity trying to please people.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous & favoured xxx

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That made the difference…

16 Sunday Aug 2015

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Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

by Robert Frost

It’s your choice…

28 Sunday Dec 2014

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Over the last few days most of my conversations with friends and complete strangers was around forgiveness.

No, I’m not going to launch into some sermon, or tell you to pick up the phone blah blah blah. I’d like to encourage you to take some quiet time out for YOU, and during this time I hope you choose to do the following:

Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for poor choices.
Forgive yourself for a lapse in judgment.
Forgive yourself for what has happened in the past; some things are beyond your control.
Forgive yourself for being impatient.
Forgive yourself for snapping & firing off unkind words.
Forgive yourself for not taking a chance and choosing to stay in a comfort zone.
Forgive yourself for not being as generous as you hoped to be.
Forgive yourself for being grumpy.
Forgive yourself for trusting someone even though the red flags were right in front of you.
Forgive yourself for not walking away from a relationship or association before things went really sour.
Forgive yourself for making the same mistake twice.
Forgive yourself for holding on to anything or anyone that’s holding you back; make the break now.

You see, this is life… there’s no one size fits all approach. The important thing is to find what works for YOU.

We live. We learn. We grow. We share. We care. We rise. We stumble. We fall. We evolve.

Today, remind yourself:
This is my journey.
This is my story.
These are my choices.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay favoured and fabulous x

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All you need…

16 Sunday Nov 2014

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One moment. That’s all you have. That’s all you need.

What you choose to do in that moment will determine the consequences for you and those around you. Your choices affect people either directly or indirectly.

My hope is that you will always choose to be that person who radiates love, peace and hope.

Let’s face it, the world has enough negative Nancy’s and there’s always room for one more eternal optimist. More importantly though, we also know that good **always** triumphs evil.

So to anyone who might have stumbled across this blog and finds him/herself in a precarious situation, remain steadfast.
Be still. In good time The Lord will vindicate you.

As you prepare for the week ahead, I leave you with one of my favorites: Be happy in the moment, that’s enough. Each moment is all we need, not more. – Mother Teresa

No matter what is said or done to you, I hope you will always choose to take the moral high ground.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay favoured & fabulous x

The answer is within…

15 Saturday Nov 2014

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It’s amazing what a bit of solitude can do for your spirit.

It’s so easy to get caught up in the rat race and lose sight of what our ultimate purpose is all about. You see, no matter how invincible you perceive yourself to be, no person is an island.

We walk this earth to live, love and grow, together. Some for a season. Some for a reason. Some for a lifetime.

What I’ve come to realize over the last few weeks is that my encounter with some individuals have passed their sell-by date. You know that feeling you get when you you have done all you could and if that is not enough then it’s time to move on? Yes, that feeling.

My toxic detector is on red alert. Negativity, snide remarks and conversations that break instead of build have no space in my life.

I choose purpose instead of popularity.
I choose authentic instead of shallow.
I choose peace instead of chaos.

I choose to share my time with those who have the courage of their convictions instead of hiding behind the facade of infantile banter.

I choose to cling now more than ever onto Jeremiah 29:11 and Isaiah 40:31.

I choose to cling to my faith and look forward every good thing that’s Divinely ordained to come my way.

I also choose to give thanks for the Divine removal of every thing or person who hinders my purpose.

I know that the tough choices are the right ones. To God be the glory!

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay favoured and fabulous!