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Some things can’t be replaced…

04 Sunday Mar 2018

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There is no substitute for thoughtfulness

There is no substitute for kindness

There is no substitute for sincerity

There is no substitute for empathy

There is no substitute for loving

Styles come and go but these fundamentals never go out of fashion and keep us grounded.

Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

A heart of gold…

03 Saturday Feb 2018

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Age, authenticity, Divine Connections, Gold, grace, gratitude, heart, honesty, kindness, lessons, life, love, purpose, Real people, relationships, wisdom

It’s been like forever since I’ve posted. And not for a lack of trying, I must add. My sabbatical (January-December 2017) was nothing that I had envisaged. It was one of the busiest and most fulfilling times. Ever.

I learnt. I cried. I smiled. I sighed. I loved. I lost… but through it all, I experienced and am most thankful for His immeasurable grace upon my life.

I met some of the most amazing people and some not-so-pleasant “characters”. There are lessons I hope to never repeat. Some opened my eyes and left me gasping in utter horror (because there are some things you just don’t expect from human beings…), while others showed me what unconditional love is all about.

In all of the living and learning, there was one person who crept into my heart… almost instantly. It was one of those connections that you know, that you know, it has to be a Divine connection.

In an age where superficiality is the order of the day, it’s so refreshing to find someone who is super real. No mask. No highlight real. Just the core of what an honest, good old fashion, genuine person is all about.

Yes, these precious treasures still exist.

A caring, kind, delightful, witty person. No airs and graces, just a beautiful soul… inside and out. A heart of gold.

It’s the kind of relationship that you want to freeze just so that time can stand still as you savour the moments. Those moments that are filled with frank comments and quirks that leave you holding your sides because you can’t stop laughing. Those moments that you don’t want to end because in that time… you appreciate and cherish the authenticity of an individual like aunty Erica; a 60-something lady whose life experiences are as fascinating as the anecdotes she enjoys sharing.

A few months ago, this was a complete stranger and today, she’s someone I can’t imagine not having in my life. I always look forward to spending time with her and most of all her “Erica-isms” … given the chance she could easily give some of the best stand ups a run for their money. Her chirps are really out of this world, and she’s quick off the mark. And then there’s her vault of wisdom.

I hope you too will get to meet amazing gems like aunty Erica, and when you do, don’t let them go…

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Musings and meandering…

05 Sunday Mar 2017

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Australia, authenticity, chocolate, fabulous, favoured, heart, Kangaroo, kindness, life, love, marriage, Packing for Perth, people, perspective, Perth, Places, purpose, relationships, thank you, time, wisdom

Earlier today I stumbled upon a business card I picked up while in Perth earlier this year. This was no ordinary card. It belongs to a cab driver turned tour guide for the duration of my stay.

For purposes of this post, let’s call him *Pedro. A soft spoken, unassuming gentleman in his mid-50s.

Anyone who knows me will tell you that I love talking so it didn’t take me long to start “interviewing” Pedro about his life. I was intrigued by his journey and how he landed up in this part of the world.

I was even more impressed by his knowledge of the city and general global topics. I kid you not, you could bring up any subject and Pedro would be able to offer an opinion, facts, figures and some sort of history. I called him a walking-talking encyclopedia.

I think the thing that struck me the most was the way he spoke about his family – wife and daughter. His face lit up when he told me about the day they met for the first time. The hopeless romantic that I am, Pedro’s story sounded like something out of a fairytale.

The pictures just screamed happiness; and when he shared anecdotes about his daughter or how he still gets to have date night with his wife, it made me realise that some people still appreciate and respect the sanctity of marriage. Hallelujah 🙂

Perth is so pretty. The hot, dry sweltering temperatures aside, it was an unforgettable experience. I would have to say the highlight was the stop at The Margaret River Chocolate Co. Every chocoholic needs to add this to their bucket list. As I stepped in, I felt like Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. You are spoilt for choice. I wanted something from every shelf but the thought of traipsing half way around the world with a chocolate stash kept me in check.

I also now realise how “Packing for Perth” or “The Australian capital of South Africans in exile” came about. I bumped into quite a few South Africans who couldn’t wait to share about life Down Under.

Not only do I have some fond memories from my time in Perth, I also have a few nuggets from *Pedro. It’s stuff I’ve heard before but somehow… he was on point and because of his PHD in Life, I found myself meditating on these comments during the 17-hour flight back home. And still today.

 For instance, he stated matter-of-factly:

  • “Don’t force anything –  anyone or anything that’s meant for you will appear when the time is right.”
  • “Your authentic self will attract real people and you will never have to second guess their motives.”
  • “Keep your heart open to give and receive love, and never stop being kind.”

As I sit and type this I find myself gazing at my screen for the longest time. The realization that it’s quite liberating when you choose to let things evolve organically.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

 Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

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Somewhere, someone needs you…

09 Thursday Jun 2016

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Someone asked me the other day whether I have “bad” days.
Of course, I do.

I’m not a robot.

I love. I laugh. I smile. I cry. I frown. I grit my teeth.

My patience runs thin from time to time and I have moments where I lose my cool. But, you can count those on one hand… and they hardly ever last long.

At the end of the day, I’m just an imperfect vessel living in a complicated world, getting through each day purely by His grace.

What has been somewhat liberating is embracing the fact that with time, some people will be left behind as my journey takes a few detours.

A few years ago, I would never dream of accepting this and would want to cling to those who crossed my path like my life depended on it. Time is a wonderful thing. Perspective is everything.

I’ve also come to the realisation that some people will never fully understand or accept the kindness, compassion and love you choose to offer. And that’s okay too. Pray for them and leave them be.

Somewhere, someone is in need of your authenticity.
Now go out there and keep living, loving and learning.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

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No masks here…

11 Friday Mar 2016

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This post is courtesy of a conversation I had with a dear friend yesterday. For purposes of this (and future posts) I shall refer to him as Positive Paul. We all need that one friend who can lift the band aid off in one go and after it’s done you still feel like you are walking on sunshine; for me, that person is Positive Paul.

This chat came about because I shared with him a comment I made to someone who I believed could’ve been a good friend. Sadly, that didn’t pan out as I had hoped and like I said to Positive Paul, the brief exchange, spurts of banter/laughter was appreciated while it lasted and certainly gave me a different perspective.

No regrets.

Only gratitude.

So through this experience I realised that I’m actually in a good space; a space where it’s tickets for anyone who doesn’t appreciate my time or worth. Life is way too short for one sided relationships (family, friends) or to pretend to be anything than your authentic self.

You see, quirks and all, Positive Paul reminded me that the people who are meant to be in my life will appreciate:

• my off-key singing
• random comments / messages
• “complicated” laugh (only he knows what that means)
• midnight ramblings
• over-thinking and analysis of a situation

I guess he has a point because when all is said and done:

• I give wholeheartedly
• I give freely
• I give without expectation
• I am fiercely loyal
• I am brutally honest
• I like to talk
• I care – too much
• I cry when someone is sad or in pain
• I am a hopeless romantic
• Yes, I am an all or nothing person… and make no apologies for it. Because, I’m worth it!

Let me leave you with words of wisdom from former president, Nelson Mandela: “May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.”

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

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No regrets, only lessons…

30 Wednesday Dec 2015

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Lessons I learnt in 2015…

Life happens and all you can do is be authentically YOU.

The truth, no matter how harsh or painful does indeed set one free.

Things like honesty, integrity and courage are rare traits but still alive (especially in the corporate world).

Circumstances, people’s opinions, and mistakes do not define YOU.

Clichéd as it sounds YOU are stronger and more resilient than any curveball that comes your way.

Having standards and refusing to settle is perfectly fine; YOU are the son or daughter of a King and deserve only the best.

Nothing is more liberating than breaking free from toxic, small-minded, negative Nancy/Neil types.

YOU have a direct line to God and YOU know what He says about your life, future. DON’T you dare (not for one minute) allow anyone to talk you out of changing direction or second guess what you know to be the Divine truth for your purpose driven life… keep your eyes and ears fixed to your Father’s voice, guidance.

The biggest lesson for me was accepting that I am more than enough; that the people who are meant to be and want to be in my life will stick like glue and others will disappear into the ether.

As you get ready to latch on to all that 2016 has in store, my prayer is that you will always choose: authenticity, love, kindness, empathy, peace. That your faith plus His grace and increased discernment will propel you to heights never imagined; and that your hearts desires will be fulfilled.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous and favoured xxx

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Be authentically YOU!

22 Sunday Nov 2015

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Today, choose to be fearlessly, authentic.

Hold on to Jeremiah 29:11.

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Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous & favoured xxx

YOU are worthy!

04 Wednesday Nov 2015

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authenticity, Boldness, choices, courage, decisions, evolve, fabulous, favoured, grow, honesty, learn, life, Life-changing, love, purpose, strength, Vulnerability, Worthiness

Thank heavens for the various options we have at our disposal, especially when cabin fever starts to set in.

Inasmuch as I love my bedroom, being confined to it for four days can get much. Even if the doctor’s orders included “no work, just take your meds and sleep it off”; boredom inevitably kicked in.

I kept my end of the bargain about no work and haven’t logged in since Sunday. That is a accomplishment
**pats self on the back**

But, once the meds wore off I needed a distraction. So, I watched some of my favourites from Brené Brown and thought you might enjoy them:

There Are No Prerequisites for Worthiness |

A Thing Scarier Than Being Vulnerable |

The Price of Invulnerability |

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous & favoured xxx

Page after page…

03 Tuesday Nov 2015

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I love reading.
If I was stranded on a deserted island with nothing more than a pile of books, I’d be the happiest person.

Whether it’s curled up on my bed or couch, outside on the grass or sinking in the sea sand, a book plus stash of chocolate (preferably Lindt) is my guilty pleasure.

While I’m not averse to modern technology, when it comes to reading I still prefer holding a book. Turning those pages and using a bookmark.

I’m also not a selfish reader, I quite enjoy passing books along.

If you are looking for a few suggestions to your reading list, below are 5 of my must reads at the moment.

Happy reading!

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Dare to stand alone!

03 Saturday Oct 2015

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Dare to walk confidently.

Dare to speak boldly.

Dare to hold on to your promises.

Dare to walk away when a season ends.

Dare to step right into your open door.

Never ever trade your authenticity trying to please people.

Thank you for taking the time to read.

Stay fabulous & favoured xxx

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